I’ve been married for 4 years now and my husband and I are not trying to have a baby as of yet. I got married when I was 18, so I was very young. People (and by people, I mainly mean my parents) claim that it’s not good to wait too long to have your first child because it can be harder to conceive. I feel like they are only saying so, so that they can have grandchildren. Is what they’re saying true? And what is the proof of this?
I know that it’s not good to wait too long, therefore, we want to have all our kids before I’m 30, hopefully. Right now, I’m 22.
And I know it’s important to calculate one’s ovulation cycle also.
27. March 2011 at 2:48 am
You don’t need to worry a thing about ovulation dates unless you have had problems conceiving.
My only advice is to have a doctor make sure that you don’t have endometriosis. Otherwise, whenever you are ready to have a baby, then go for it. Medically, the ideal time to have a baby is between the ages of 21-26 because this is the time when the least complications arise.
27. March 2011 at 2:48 am
No. Ridiculous. If that was the case, women would all have to get pregnant as soon as they started menstruating.
27. March 2011 at 2:48 am
It becomes harder to conceive when you hit your mid to late thirties, especially if you’ve never had a child before. 22 is, from a physical point of view, a good age to have a child, but if your not ready emotionally, you have a good 15 years or so before you should start worrying
27. March 2011 at 2:48 am
relax
27. March 2011 at 2:48 am
obviously your fertility is affected the older you get, but it has nothing to do with when you get married. You got married young and have plenty of time to have kids. Don’t let your parents bother you, enjoy your time as a couple, and have kids when you two are ready!
27. March 2011 at 2:48 am
No, have faith that that is not true at all.
You have plenty of time to conceive a child.
27. March 2011 at 2:48 am
Don’t let anyone pressure you into having children. You are still young. You can wait until you’re 30 if you want. Do it when you are emotionally and financially ready.
27. March 2011 at 2:48 am
It’s true if people wait until their later 30s to start trying for a baby, but you are young enough that it should not be an issue. Don’t let people force to to do something that you are not ready for. I was 34 when my son was born and I have no problem getting pregnant, but due to health issues I had several miscarriages and a late term infant loss.
27. March 2011 at 2:48 am
It is true that the older you are the harder it is to have a baby. So dont try when you are like 40 or something. I am 20 and I am 11 weeks pregnant. You are only 22, you have plenty of time. Dont listen to your parents. they just want grandkids that they can spoil.
27. March 2011 at 2:48 am
plenty of time. don’t listen to their nonsense about waiting. the only time that is true is when you are older, and don’t know if you are fertile or not- then if you wait too long to try, by the time you find out you are having difficulty, it may be too late for intervention to be successful. enjoy being with your hubby for now and start trying when YOU are ready!
27. March 2011 at 2:48 am
it is true. as your eggs get older, they get less fertile.
27. March 2011 at 2:48 am
my friend was 43 when she had her last child. if you’re not ready to have a child, then don’t. do it when it’s right for you, not your parents.
27. March 2011 at 2:48 am
Wait and have kids when your ready. Some people find it harder once they are in their mid to late thirties and others never have any problems. Do not have kids until your husband and you are both ready.
27. March 2011 at 2:48 am
That is not true at all….I am almost 41 and my son is 4 years old and believe me, it was not difficult to conceive at all. We were not even trying and it just happened! For most people, it is hard to conceive when they are trying too hard. Take your time and enjoy life and time with your husband. Then when you are both ready, go for it.
27. March 2011 at 2:48 am
Well turned 20 a few months after I was married… We wanted to wait 5 years before we had any kids … BUT after three years… SURPRISE>> I was Pregnant…
BUT in regards to your question… NO I don’t think that has anything to do with it… IT IS YOUR CHOICE WHEN YOU START HAVING KIDS>> TRUST ME>> Kids are great and I love my little girl… But YOU need time with just you and your hubby before you have kids because once you do have kids it won’t be just the two of you for atleast 18 years…
DOn’t just have kids because someone else wants you to… HAVE THEM becasue you are ready..
GOOD LUCK AND I WISH YOU THE BEST>>
27. March 2011 at 2:48 am
It is true that it can get harder to conceive, but usually not until you’re close to 40. I really don’t think you have anything to worry about!! Don’t let your parents push you to do anything your not ready for. Enjoy your husband, enjoy being young! There is plenty of time for babies and no way for you to take it back once they’re there! Being a parent is a full time job, don’t go into it for anyone but yourselves!!
27. March 2011 at 2:48 am
Absolutely NOT! the only thing i could think of is… you just stop having sex lol. Ive been with my husband for 5 years now and dated way before that! I have a little one on the way right now. DONT BELIEVE it! When the time is right you guys do your thing and it will happen!
27. March 2011 at 2:48 am
No it´s not true. I just turned 23 and my son is 12 weeks old. And then there is my sister who is 33 and her son is 1 year.. So no, I think they just want grandchildren !!! Which is normal, my mom drove me insane untill I fell pregnant last year ( was not planned ) I was only married one month…lol
27. March 2011 at 2:48 am
1. Project babies age to with your age at babies HS graduation.
2. Consider the age that makes a pregnancy more difficult
for you (think it’s in the 35-40 range).
3. Think of the position (maritally and financially )that you
would "like to be when the first one comes along.
Now, if nature don’t settle the issue, do what you and the
old man think best for the both of YOU.
27. March 2011 at 2:48 am
Women are born with a set number of eggs. When you are young, you have many, so the chance of conceiving is much greater. Your eggs age along with you, meaning "older" eggs that get fertilized, are of a lower quality. The chance of having a child with birth defects or other disabilities becomes greater as well. Most women have plenty of eggs left at the age of 25-30, it is when you get to the age of 35-45 that you risk being able to conceive or having children with birth defects. However, this is not always the case, many women within that age range conceive with no problem and have perfectly healthy children. Good luck, it is all a matter of personal choice. Do what you think is best for you and your future children.
27. March 2011 at 2:48 am
I don’t think there is any decrease in fertility until at least 27. And many people have a baby well after that time. I waited until I was 32 to have a baby and my little girl is very healthy. My best advice- don’t be pressured by others. You will know when it is right for you. My husband and I were married almost 9 years before I got pregnant and it was the right decision for us.
27. March 2011 at 2:48 am
The average woman produces so many egg follicles at younger ages then that number decreases with age but there are plenty of younger woman that still have problems getting pregnant so even at your age you could have problems. It is just an individual thing based on each woman and what problems they may or may not have. Don’t have a baby until you and your husband feel you are ready or if your body just decides it is time before you know it lol.
27. March 2011 at 2:48 am
its just your parents being pushy…you’ll be ready to have children when your ready… it doesn’t matter if you 15 or 35 you can still conceive and should have no complications unless you have fertility issues that you don’t know about but even then they will put you on meds to get you ovulating regularly…a friend of mines step mom is 43 and just had a baby… your parents are just trying to push you… good luck
27. March 2011 at 2:48 am
What they are saying is incorrect as you thought. There is no difference between trying to conceive at 20 or at 25 or at 30. Troubles usually start around the age of 35. And by troubles, I mean that there can be more difficulties surrounding the pregnancy and the child (More cases of down’s syndrome and other disabilities).
Have children when you are good and ready. And tell your parents they are just going to have to wait for their grand kiddies! Smart you for doing what you want.
27. March 2011 at 2:48 am
will you still young.. My friend just had her second baby sept 1 and she has three year old.
and she about 22 year old..
It doesn’t matter when you start have family…
If you read some books about how late pregnant is about age of 35 and older it harder to conceiving a child.
I am expecting my first in few weeks and i am just few year older then you..and i got marry young too
it was unplanned pregnant but me and my husband is excited.
you can always talk to your obgyn.
27. March 2011 at 2:48 am
Everyone’s body is different, some people get pregnant on the first try. Others try for months and then get pregnant, some have to go on fertility drugs to get pregnant and others can’t have babies.
I would say your parents are trying to pressure you to give them grandchildren. I had my son who is now 12 at 20 (2 wks after i turned 20) and we are 37 wks and 3 days pregnant right now with our girl. It took us 4 months to get pregnant then we lost the baby via miscarriage at about 5 wks when we had only known for a wk. The doc gave us the go ahead 3 wks later to try again and we had success the first try. I am 32 and my husband is 33. Again, it depends on the women and how her body is and how fertile her husband is at how fast they get pregnant or how slowly.
27. March 2011 at 2:48 am
Never heard that before. I think you are smart for waiting. Finish you education, get finances straight…you won’t regret enjoying your time alone with hubby. have children when you are ready and don’t be pressured into it.
27. March 2011 at 2:48 am
you are only 22, you have plenty of time to have kids. Wait until you are ready and dont let anyone pressure you.xx
27. March 2011 at 2:48 am
You have time, and do it on your own timetable, not by your parents. Relax…When it happens it will be great, but for now, just stick to your guns, and do, what you think you, and your hubby, should do..There is plenty of time, to have kids.